Hi @gigatux,
I find that org-roam really shines when you have a really big and complex problem to solve. For me, the “where a I going to put this” question is always answered by where will I look for it when I need to find it.
Org-roam and emacs became what I needed them to be when I was dealing with a extended family medical emergency. They survived a trial by fire. I did not follow Zettelkasten or could even tell you what the roam principles are.
I needed and still need something that is fast. Where I can create a note with minimal organizational structure except a name. This could be note on a doctor, a medication, an event, a concept, a procedure, a web link, a document, a piece of code, a note that acts more like a tag, whatever might seem to be important.
Then I need to quickly link that note to other notes that AID IN RETRIEVING that information IF I need it in the future. I often can’t remember the name of the thing, but I typically can find the thing because of what I linked it to. I don’t need or use full-text search, links are enough.
Unlike @nobiot, everything is likely a fleeting note. Some of the notes have no content and are used to group other notes (tags), some are mega notes with 50+ connections.
It’s mostly chaos. Just like my real brain!
I also needed a visualizer to try and piece together medical puzzles (org-roam-server then org-roam-ui). A digital cork board over stuffed with small details on pieces of paper, with pushpins and bits of yarn making connections. They let me see relationships between distant fragments to create new understanding (and MORE notes).
I never knew what was going to be important, so I tried to capture and connect as much as possible, as fast as possible.
When the roam gets bigger, it becomes easier to interconnect. At first it’s hard and I ended up with a bunch of notes without content. Those are mostly fleshed out now, or I don’t see them because I have not looked for them!
My current roam has 2585 files with 4217 unique IDs, it’s integrated with my GTD-like org-mode task manager. I think it’s been a year and a half?
I’m only now starting to write “evergreen” notes on larger concepts (blogs?) in more of Zettelkasten way.
Also, now I’m dependent on it so that I can’t imagine moving.